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Many are experiencing grief during COVID. You are not alone. We recognize your strength this time and aim to encourage you to take that leap of faith towards healing.
We will walk you through these holistic coping mechanisms:
- Detecting the Signals of Grief
- Healing Individual and Collective Greif
- Coping With Non-Death Related Feelings of Grief
- Other Ways to Find Help
If I was a Bird
Ode of Freedom
“You got me caught in
A stormy odd world that drains
And I beg to see truth and promises
You made to me
Now we’ve come so far
But my visions of happiness
With you in my life
I’m afraid and confused
If I was a bird I’d fly
If I was a bird I’d fly away
Spread my wings so I’d escape.”–If I was a Bird, Floetry
Navigating grief feels like a cage forming around you. People may not visually see what you are going through but it becomes a heavy load that weighs down your wings. However, it does not have to feel this way. You may be seeing and emoting shades of blue, but know that you are not alone. Pandemic-related deaths, deaths of people because of the political climate, or deaths due to natural factors may affect you.
Let yourself fly free from this emotional cage and walk in wholeness through these tips of navigating grief as a result of individual and collective trauma.
Navigating Individual Grief
Signs of Grief
Grief comes in varying symptoms. According to Ercilla Glean, a health coach with a Masters in Psychology and current Masters of Public Health candidate at Emory University, there are many visible signals of grief. Some of these signs include: anxiety, anger, loneliness, isolation, sadness, uncertainty, guilt (responsibility for the loss), difficulty concentrating, and low self esteem.
While these are some of the symptoms of grief, the steps are non-linear. According to Dr. Lara Krawchuk, a specialist in coping with grief, many expect grief to come and go smoothly from acceptance to healing, but it comes in waves. Oftentimes, people who grieve begin to think about what this loss means to them and how it affects daily life. This stage is known as the meaning-making process and that is natural in the process of grieving.
Different Kinds of Grief
During COVID, there are different types of grief that occur. You may be experiencing grief of losing your job, security, going through a divorce, or even losing a loved one. While these are different types of grief, they are all forms of grief that you may be dealing with. The grief of losing a job is called a “living or ambiguous loss” because of the lack of closure that these situations create for you.
Know that your healing process should not have a strict timeline on it. It is important, in any form of grief that you go through, to be honest with yourself and others of how you are feeling in the moment.
Begin Your Path Towards Wholeness
Take heart, because when you lose someone or something, look for that voice in other people and circumstances. For instance, if someone loses a mother or mother figure, notice the other figures like that in your life. If you lose your job, focus on the time you get to spend with family. Try your best to focus on the positive.
In this time, self-care is imperative and often an act of resistance and self-preservation during this pandemic. Instead of forgetting to take care of your mental health, prioritize it and lean into your own healing process.
These are some of the things you can do to make strides towards renewal:
- Seek Out and Accept Help
- Virtual Therapy
- Give Yourself a Break
- Support Groups
- Give yourself Some Time
- Spend Quality Time With Friends and Family
- Try a New Hobby
- Limit Social Media Consumption
- Continue Your Spiritual Practices
- Be Creative by Expressing Grief Through Writing and Art
Dealing With Collective Grief
COVID, Ahmaud Arbery, and Instances of Collective Grief
During COVID-19, it is common to be absorbed in collective grief. The social media scene produces thousands of images, videos, words, and virtual personas that can affect your mental space. The death of people due to COVID on social media, the messages of hate, and economic loss all over the media causes collective loss.
Ms. Glean explains the psychological concept of collective grief by saying, “We, as humans, long for connection with others. That connection can be physical or emotional, but we don’t want to feel that we are alone in this world. We grieve collectively in that moment because we’ve all lost something or someone that connects us all together.” Overall, one death or sense of loss can ripple throughout entire communities. The way to identify and appropriately grieve this loss is by checking-in with how you react to social media consumption and pinpointing the emotional triggers that you have.
Collective grief occurs particularly in ethnic, racial, religious, or other groupings of communities. As an Afro-Latina mental health professional, Ms. Glean discusses the current events related to racial trauma that affect people’s mental space. She explains, “For People of Color (POC), when events happen like the killing of Ahmaud Arbery or reports of ICE losing immigrant children in their custody and those in custody dying due to inhumane conditions, it’s important to lean on each other during that time. Coping with collective grief can look different for everyone. It may be on a larger scale such as going to a rally/protest, but it can also be more personable such as journaling, meditating and praying. “
Learn More About Resources to Help With Grief
Therapy and Finally Freeing the Caged Bird
Lastly, make sure that you are going through this process so that you can spread your wings and fly above the issues of pain at this time. Some helpful resources include finding a therapist in your area, GRW, virtual counseling specialized in healing from grief, and for children in the Pittsburgh area that lost loved ones, check out The Highmark Caring Place. If you know someone who is grieving, make sure to affirm them even by saying, “I see you and I’m here for you.”